There are moments when a person may experience so much emotional pain that they begin to think there is no way out. For some people, this pain may also be accompanied by thoughts of suicide. If someone close to you is going through a period like this, it's normal to feel worried, unsure or not know what to do. As a psychologist, I want to tell you something important: you don't need to have the perfect words to help. Often, presence, listening and sincere care are worth more than any advice.

How can you tell that someone is suffering?

People who have suicidal thoughts don't always express openly what they are going through. However, some warning signs often appear:
  • They withdraw from friends, family and activities they used to enjoy.
  • They often talk about feelings of helplessness, emptiness or hopelessness.
  • They use phrases like: "There's no point any more", "It would be better without me" or "I'm tired of everything".
  • They seem more withdrawn or more emotional than usual.
  • Their sleeping, eating or self-care habits change.
These signs don't automatically mean the person will harm themselves, but they are signals that deserve attention and support.

What can you do?

The most important thing is to create a safe space where the person feels heard. You could say: "I've noticed you're going through a hard time. I'm here for you. How are you feeling?" Don't rush to give solutions. Many people in crisis don't immediately need advice; they need to feel understood. Listen calmly. Let the person talk. Even moments of silence can be valuable.

Don't be afraid to ask directly

One of the most widespread myths is that asking about suicide can put the idea into someone's head. This isn't true. If you are worried, you can ask calmly and without judgement: "Have you had thoughts of harming yourself?" Often, this question gives the person the chance to talk openly about something they have kept inside for a long time.

What should you avoid?

In trying to help, we sometimes say things that unintentionally make the person feel even more alone. Try to avoid sentences like:
  • "Think positive."
  • "Others have it worse."
  • "You have everything, why do you feel like this?"
  • "You need to be stronger."
Emotional pain doesn't go away with pressure or comparisons. It needs understanding and support.

When should professional help be sought?

If the person talks about suicide, expresses a wish not to live or seems to be at risk, it is very important to seek professional support as soon as possible. A psychologist or mental health professional can help them understand and manage what they are going through. And if you think the person may harm themselves at that moment, don't leave them alone. Stay with them and immediately contact emergency services or a trusted person who can help.

Finally

If someone close to you is struggling with thoughts of suicide, remember that you don't need to be their rescuer. It's enough to be someone who listens, stays close and helps them connect with the right support. Sometimes a sincere conversation, a phone call or a calm presence can become the bridge that helps a person get through the hardest moment of their life. For more, click here