Discipline Without Punishment 1

If a child doesn't listen and behaves badly towards their brother or sister... If they don't do their homework, if complaints keep coming from school... If they don't carry out their responsibilities at home, if they don't respect adults... Should we say: "These actions must be punished" – and punish them? Can a child's behaviour be corrected by getting angry with them, scolding or punishing them? Or is punishment a sign of adults' powerlessness? Many adults believe there can be no raising of children without punishment. They think punishment and reward are good educational methods so that the child learns what is right and what is wrong. "If punishment were a bad thing, those of us who were punished as children would also be bad people," they say. Yes, punishment is not a tool of education; it is a humiliating behaviour... A child develops their personality not by being humiliated, but by being valued. The book "Discipline Without Punishment 1" explains in detail how conflict with a child affects the development of their personality, makes them reactive and undermines their control of anger. Although punishment works in the short term, in the long term it makes the child feel worthless.